Around this time of year there is a lot of chatter about resolutions. I don’t really buy into all that. Break the word down and it’s “re-solutions”, meaning, we have perhaps gotten lost in the problems in our lives and for this day forward we resolve to be different. But the issue most folks have is that by January 31st they are back to their old behaviors.
I personally choose to apply the notion that we get to start over anytime we want, even if that is several times a day. Being in recovery taught me this.
I am starting over in many areas of my life. Of course, most obviously would be the dynamic of my relationship, which I wrote about 2 blogs ago. What I know about relationships is that they require effort and flexibility but most of all: interest. A healthy relationship means that both parties have a common interest in keeping the Garden of We vital as it expands and contracts with inevitable change. For most folks it may not be as grandiose as a gender shift, but there are many other intense types of change: divorce, job loss or change, death, illness, infidelity, children being born or moving out. Or if you’ve had the year I have had, almost all of those.
I have exercised a great amount of observation over this last year. The practice of Svadhyaya, self study, is paramount in my life. This isn’t always pleasant. Most of the time it’s not, because I must face myself. It’s stated in several yogic philosophies that the path of a yogi quite often is a solitary path, and that’s certainly true for me. I have found I have less and less interest in mundane superficiality that is hyper-blasted everywhere in our lives. I tend to gravitate towards and draw to me others whom are on the same path, for we speak the common language.
As I have mentioned here and there, I have strong opinions about social media and how it has caused incredible disillusionment in humans as a whole. We are an addicted society. We compulsively check our phones. We are obsessed with the little red icon showing activity. We garner our self esteem by the “likes”. We compare our insides with other peoples strategically posted outsides. It’s an emotionally political battlefield. If you don’t agree with me, try going without facebook for a week,or hell, even a day, and see how squirrely you feel.
In the yoga world, it is almost expected that there is a strong social media presence, because yoga is a business now. I have talked to many, many teachers about their feelings with this. To me and others on the path the Energy of it all feels frenetic and crazy making. So, I am letting it go for the most part. For awhile, or forever, we shall see. Now, it’s not lost on me that this blog has a tag onto social media. And lest I be misunderstood, I don’t hate facebook. I quite like it……in moderation. I connect with friends and family and feel a sense of my various tribes. However, I needed to get really honest with myself about how it’s all affecting me.
A few people I interviewed regarding this topic agreed that what’s behind the fear of letting go of facebook is this fear of being forgotten. That’s so sad to me. What if we all faced that fear?? There was life before social media. How did we all connect before? Do you remember that? True connections are now striving to be encapsulated into a singular “like”. That is how we now show our interest in each others lives. I do this all the time myself and like I said, I do love that feeling of connect. But not at the expense of true face to face interactions. Or at least phone to face. 🙂
Yoga has been a practice for thousands of years. The deeper I go into it the quieter I become, which is the point. Many people are terrified or even unable to sit and be with themselves without distraction. Social media is a fantastic distraction, yes? But it can become unhealthy. My invitation is to get honest with Self.